<?xml version="1.0" encoding="UTF-8"?><rss xmlns:dc="http://purl.org/dc/elements/1.1/" xmlns:content="http://purl.org/rss/1.0/modules/content/" xmlns:atom="http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom" version="2.0"><channel><title><![CDATA[Let's Talk Counselling and Psychotherapy]]></title><description><![CDATA[Counselling and psychotherapy practice located in Canberra ACT. We provide both individual and couples counselling in person and online.  ]]></description><link>https://simontidy1967.wixsite.com/website/blog</link><generator>RSS for Node</generator><lastBuildDate>Sat, 18 Apr 2026 10:15:07 GMT</lastBuildDate><atom:link href="https://simontidy1967.wixsite.com/website/blog-feed.xml" rel="self" type="application/rss+xml"/><item><title><![CDATA[Diagnosis, Doctors, and Why Pills Don’t Teach Skills]]></title><description><![CDATA[Neurodivergence describes difference. Diagnosis describes criteria.]]></description><link>https://simontidy1967.wixsite.com/website/post/diagnosis-doctors-and-why-pills-don-t-teach-skills</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6992f16515e99da320d462fc</guid><category><![CDATA[Neurodiversity]]></category><category><![CDATA[counselling]]></category><pubDate>Mon, 16 Feb 2026 10:36:17 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/9a2149_5997e35e0e694021907bd99a8f7296f2~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_315,h_160,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Simon Tidy</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[The problem isn’t that you’re “too much.” It’s that the relationship system isn’t built for your wiring.]]></title><description><![CDATA[Neurodivergent couples often arrive in therapy with the same painful loop: 	•	“We love each other… but we keep hurting each other.” 	•	“We’re great until stress hits—then everything falls apart.” 	•	“It feels like we’re speaking different languages.” And the heartbreaking part? Both people are usually trying so hard . In many relationships, the real issue isn’t a lack of love or effort. It’s a mismatch between two nervous systems , two communication styles , and the invisible demands of...]]></description><link>https://simontidy1967.wixsite.com/website/post/the-problem-isn-t-that-you-re-too-much-it-s-that-the-relationship-system-isn-t-built-for-your-wiring</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6965bfe57d3bee3fd1033e32</guid><pubDate>Tue, 13 Jan 2026 03:47:52 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/9a2149_5997e35e0e694021907bd99a8f7296f2~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_315,h_160,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Simon Tidy</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Ritual in an ADHD + Autistic Relationship: The Structure That Makes Love Easier]]></title><description><![CDATA[A practical, neuroaffirming guide torelationship rituals for ADHD + autistic couples]]></description><link>https://simontidy1967.wixsite.com/website/post/ritual-in-an-adhd-autistic-relationship-the-structure-that-makes-love-easier</link><guid isPermaLink="false">6962d4ad7d3bee3fd1020322</guid><category><![CDATA[Neurodiversity]]></category><category><![CDATA[counselling]]></category><category><![CDATA[relationships]]></category><pubDate>Sat, 10 Jan 2026 22:42:38 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/9a2149_9349d0b317014e8c9ba0eec4c13e183a~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_200,h_133,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Simon Tidy</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[When We “Hold” a Client’s Progress, We Also Hold Their Setbacks]]></title><description><![CDATA[Working with complex clients can quietly invite an understandable fantasy: If I get the formulation right, if I find the right modality, if I stay steady enough… I can carry them through. It often comes from care, not ego. Many of us entered this work because we genuinely can’t bear unnecessary suffering. But here’s the tension: the more responsibility we take for a client’s progress, the more accountable we become when progress stalls, reverses, or fractures. If we’re not careful, that...]]></description><link>https://simontidy1967.wixsite.com/website/post/when-we-hold-a-client-s-progress-we-also-hold-their-setbacks</link><guid isPermaLink="false">695de478bf8801c790d97686</guid><category><![CDATA[self care]]></category><category><![CDATA[counselling]]></category><pubDate>Wed, 07 Jan 2026 04:56:09 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/9a2149_17f7a73b09534090927e0010b17a61ca~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_1000,h_768,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Simon Tidy</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[What Is Radically Open Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (RO-DBT)?]]></title><description><![CDATA[A new approach to managing difficult emotions through radical open dialectical behaviour therapy ]]></description><link>https://simontidy1967.wixsite.com/website/post/what-is-radically-open-dialectical-behaviour-therapy-ro-dbt</link><guid isPermaLink="false">683f6feef031c1ca3421d48a</guid><category><![CDATA[Neurodiversity]]></category><category><![CDATA[counselling]]></category><category><![CDATA[change]]></category><pubDate>Mon, 15 Sep 2025 03:42:00 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/9a2149_70988958d6e64ff6952782cea30bf144~mv2.webp/v1/fit/w_1000,h_1000,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Simon Tidy</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Pathological Demand Avoidance and its impact on Neurodivergent relationships]]></title><description><![CDATA[What is pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA)]]></description><link>https://simontidy1967.wixsite.com/website/post/pathological-demand-avoidance-and-its-impact-on-neurodivergent-relationships</link><guid isPermaLink="false">68c732413909945e9b12479f</guid><category><![CDATA[Neurodiversity]]></category><category><![CDATA[counselling]]></category><category><![CDATA[relationships]]></category><pubDate>Sun, 14 Sep 2025 21:33:45 GMT</pubDate><enclosure url="https://static.wixstatic.com/media/9a2149_d992345d46444e1699add64207055641~mv2.png/v1/fit/w_320,h_223,al_c,q_80/file.png" length="0" type="image/png"/><dc:creator>Simon Tidy</dc:creator></item><item><title><![CDATA[Healing Through the Eyes: Understanding EMDR Therapy]]></title><description><![CDATA[Trauma can leave a lasting imprint—not only in our memories but in our bodies, behaviours, and relationships. 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